Defining Success, Our Way!
Posted: March 06, 2019 by Bailey Gordon
How many hats do you wear?
When you sit down to really think about it, its quite amazing why we doubt ourselves as much as we do.
We ALL wear so many hats and guess what?
We’re not doing that bad.
For me personally, I’m most proud to call myself a mom, but I’m also a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, and a Realtor when it comes to “work”. I love it when people ask me what I do, or how I do it, or if I work part time. No, I work ALL the time. I don’t work 15-20 hours a week anywhere, I work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, at different jobs with different roles. But we all do! Whether you’re a stay at home mom, or a working mom, or a retired mom, or you were never a mom at all, you are you and you have your dreams and aspirations and they all take work.
The hardest part is finding the right balance.
How much time do you spend on one and sacrifice in another?
I learned a long time ago, I can’t allow others to define my success. My success in any one of my roles can only be defined by me and what I had hoped to accomplish in that area. I work because I love it, because it fills me up, it gives me a great sense of pride and it helps my family financially. When I became a mom, I had to figure out how to work less to be home more all while maintaining a healthy income. There is no salary in real estate, there are no “benefits”, it is hustle and work and commissions that you earn! There is also no one telling me that the amount of money I bring home defines how successful I am. I am successful because I met my own goal, not someone else’s. I desire to spend time with my son, to watch him grow and learn, and to be present daily. Can I just go ahead and tell you that sometimes, it is much easier to go to work! Ha. Honestly though, a 2-year-old will challenge you in ways you never thought possible. However, being a mom is undeniably the most rewarding job I’ve ever had.
So how do I spend time at home when I need to be working? I call Heather! In all sincerity though, you surround yourself with people who make you better and you learn to delegate and by empowering others, you can do so much more. So, I have Heather and she fills all my gaps at work. She gets to the office before I do, she works with all our buyer clients while I focus heavily on our sellers. She helps me with all of my paperwork, and she is always just a call away when I need something.
Okay okay, so your next question is, “well, she’s a mom too…”. She is. And a good one. Her daughter is a little older than my son and needs her too, but she gets to call on me just like I call on her and we help each other. We rely on our moms because they’re the best childcare we have, and we must ask for help.
I read somewhere once that there is no such thing as work life balance. There are work life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences. Period. We all have our days of feeling like we’re falling short but there is no secret to getting it all done. Ask for help! That’s the answer and be willing to just be human. It’s okay to fall short or feel like it anyway, because honestly, you’re probably not falling short at all, you’re just a little out of balance.
Refocus, reset, and enjoy today.